The Power of a Pet

A few years ago I came across a study identifying the three most positive influences on an individual's sense of well-being: an ocean, a fire and a pet. According to the study, they are ever-changing and ever-moving without being threatening, making each of them a far more psychologically healthy distraction than, for instance, television.

If you can't get to an ocean or don't have a fireplace, a pet is a pretty economical alternative for such a huge payoff. With cats or fish, both of which fit the criteria for mental stress busters, training obviously isn't an issue. If you get a dog, the materials put together by The Monks of New Skete, a fraternal order in upstate-New York famous for its beautifully trained German Shepherds, are a great resource. Their book-on-tape How To Be Your Dog's Best Friend has excellent insights into everything from sending the dog correct signals to recognizing the best puppy in the litter for you. I found the tape at my local library.

For single mothers, the practical benefit of getting a dog can be a sense of security. Police studies repeatedly show that the greatest deterrent to anyone intent on breaking into your house is the presence of a barking dog. Less tangible but more long-term are the numerous studies that have shown that self esteem is higher in those adults who had pets as children. For your kids, it's the gift that keeps on giving.

Of course, all pet ownership comes with a price - mine includes the occasional barf, bad breath, and for a while, chewed up socks, toys and shoes. But when I became a single mother, my dog filled in the most unexpected gaps - I felt less lonely with him around and found the intense joy and enthusiasm he emanated were contagious. It's hard to imagine who or what else could have played the same role at those really difficult moments. And that too is a gift.

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